Apparently some believe you should stay in a marriage, no matter what
I believe you have to fight for your marriage- or in other words, you need to work on it every day. Like a job, like anything that is worth something to you- your marriage/relationship needs to be nurtured, cared for, watered and beautified to the best of your ability.
I also wrote this article a while ago 7 Signs It’s Time to End Your Relationship in which I stated that while you may love the person you’re with- sometimes that familiarity- whether we realize it or not develops into more of a friendly but devoid of sexual chemistry relationship. And you end up feeling more akin to roommates than lovers. The relationship is comfortable, but it’s also stale and stifling. You start thinking: If I’m going to be lonely, wouldn’t it be better to actually be alone?
Then I offered some advice, for those married couples who may have found themselves in such an unenviable position, about steps they could consider when making the decision as to whether or not it might be time to take action and end their relationship.
One reader took MAJOR offense to my position and expressed her disgust with this article. Here’s what she said…
“You sound like a lot of us who have been influenced by our current culture of “what’s in it for me” — and I don’t mean that in a critical way. Our culture feeds us on that 24/7. But it leaves us with having issues with giving in a relationship. That “can’t live without feeling” is just a feeling — and it passes/mellows, and then life sets in, and relationships require giving, sacrifice, and work — that is love. That “can’t live without” feeling is not love. It might be lust, but it ain’t love. Many divorced people later realize they would have been wiser to stay in their marriage and work on it. Men are not like shampoo. We can’t just drop them and expect to find another one we like better. I agree with you that some relationships should be ended, but I was saddened by your article, because it advised people to leave marriages and relationships that were merely imperfect. All marriages and relationships are imperfect; running away and abandoning responsibility is not the answer.”
So I ask you dear Married my Sugar Daddy readers… do you stay and work on a marriage when it simply feels like you’re beating a dead horse, out of allegiance to the vows you took when you said I do? Is it ever okay to walk away?