Could your marriage survive a LOVE CHILD?
Honestly, after 14 years of marriage, I have no idea how I would react if my husband revealed to me that he had fathered a child with another woman. And that’s the weird part about entering into a marital union — you think you know someone enough to take vows of monogamy, but ultimately you enter into the union with this sort of blind faith and trust. You assume that you can trust that this person will only sleep with you. But unless you are on him like white on rice 24/7, or have him tailed by a private eye 24/7, how can any of us guarantee, or know for sure that our spouses will not and have not strayed?
I have always told my husband that if I ever caught him cheating on me, that would be the end of our marriage. And how, you ask, could I say that with such certainty? Because marriage is a leap of blind faith and trust. You put your confidence in another human being that they will not forsake you, and that regardless of whatever temptations, fears, or perhaps boredom, they will be honest enough with you to talk about their feelings rather than getting naked and busy with another person. You trust if they feel the need to go outside your marriage for sexual gratification, they’d have the decency to tell you they were considering this so as not to soil the sanctity of the union you share.
I would rather my husband tell me he wants to be with another woman, as opposed to 14 years later having to find out he fathered another child. To have actually produced an heir — another physical person — with the one with whom he shared sexual pleasure outside of our marriage … well, in my opinion it would be the ultimate, unforgivable betrayal.
In the case of the Terminator and Shriver, there was ultimately no way for Arnold to cover his cheating tracks, as his dalliance produced a love child. There can never be a way for this couple to go back, because there is a living breathing human being who is a constant reminder of his father’s betrayal.
I guess my real question is … what if Arnold and this woman didn’t produce a love child? Would Maria ever have been privy to his indiscretions?
How do any of us really know whether our better halves are faithful? If this happened in your marriage, could you ever conceive of the possibility of forgiveness?