In every marriage there’s a tradeoff (whether you want to admit it or not)
I love my sugar daddy, madly, desperately and passionately. But I also realize now, at almost 39, something I didn’t really consider at 25 when I was marrying a 40 year old man; that this age difference will be a factor, simply because no matter how young at heart we feel the physical body is its own beast that ages (and dies just a little) every day.
That’s right- my husband is 54, aka, he’s eligible for AARP, most of his friends have kids who have already graduated college and some who are even getting married. He’s middle-aged- and while when I look at him and his graying temples and the deepening furrows in his brow- I love him all the more- physically he is not on par with that of a 38 year old man (or woman). He just doesn’t have the energy that I do- and while I’ve never felt our dramatic 15-year age difference before, recently I have and it just makes me wistful ( and wondering how my life would be different had I married someone my own age).
Don’t get me wrong- the man is in really good shape- he goes running everyday and even takes cholesterol medicine ( sheesh my husband takes cholesterol medicine) . And he can run circles around me… but when the clock strikes 6pm he’s ready for bed (yes he’s an early bird special enthusiast) and well I’m not. And getting him to go out and party into the wee hours of 10pm on a weekend night, well it’s a struggle to say the least. I know it’s not that he doesn’t want to- rather his internal clock just doesn’t work well at that time in the evening- and at almost 39 mine is a RARING to go.
But I get it– this is my marital tradeoff- I married someone older as opposed to my own age because he possessed a maturity level that I simply couldn’t find in someone my own age. (When I got married at 25 years old, my husband who was 40, was still good to go after 10 pm!) I married someone who was ready to settle down and start a family and be as hands on a father as I could possibly hope for. And I don’t regret my decision at all- I know it’s part of my path- and I love my husband- I just wish- every once in a while- he could stay up past 10pm…
So, what’s your marital tradeoff?!