Saturdays with the sugar daddy; can an OPEN marriage be sustained long-term
So it’s that time of the week again Fridays with the Sugar Daddy…except we’re a day late because well we had a sick ten year old to contend with, a dog who was having some bowel problems and a little boy who needed a lot of TLC- as in let’s play ten games of chess and proceed to cry and dump the board at the end of each successive game if I don’t win, but as usual I digress.
It is now time for Saturdays with the sugar daddy and this week we have a FEW fun topics I’m posing to my sugar daddy. First up Newt Gingrich and his request for an open marriage from his second wife. We were just casually chatting and I jokingly asked him what he thought about Gingrich’s request to which he replied, “Who wouldn’t want an open marriage?!” So I had to dig deeper…
Here is our follow-up conversation
Me:”Wait do you want an open marriage?”
The sugar daddy:” Of course not, it was a joke”
Me: “But isn’t the truth said in jest?”
The sugar daddy: “Well Newt Gingrich wanted it open on his end, I’m sure he didn’t want his wife to indulge in an open marriage too. Obviously I don’t think a relationship can work when it’s open, for anyone involved, it defeats the purpose of a relationship. If you want to have a relationship, if you are going to have multiple sex partners it undermines the intimacy you can establish with your main relationship- i.e. your wife. I don’t think men really want an open relationship- or if they do it’s probably one sided- wherein they can be the only ones indulging – not their wives.”
Me: So why do you think Gingrich asked his second wife for an open marriage- why not just get divorced?
The sugar daddy: Well that’s exactly what he did, he ended up getting divorced and married his now third wife.
Me: But do you think an open marriage can be sustained, if it’s “open” just on the man’s part?
The sugar daddy: Not really, because how is that benefiting the wife.
Me: Well Maybe Newt had insatiable sexual needs that just one woman couldn’t fulfill- so having an open marriage, took some of this pressure off the wife, and let another woman pick up the slack in servicing his needs?
The sugar daddy: It really just seemed to me like he wanted a relationship with the other woman and it was convenient to stay married to his current wife for appearance sake. The truth is- if you are going to have an open marriage- you can’t call it a marriage. If you both have different definitions of a marriage you can’t stay in that marriage.
Me: So back to my question, why don’t you think a marriage can be open and work?
The sugar daddy: It’s just human nature that jealousies will arise and it can only lead to disaster- it just completely undermines the sanctity of a marriage. Put it this way- if you feel the need to have sex with another woman outside of your marriage- then you are obviously lacking something within your marriage that you either need to work on, or you need to admit that your marriage is no longer viable.
Me: But isn’t it true that that’s the fantasy of all married men to have multiple wives/ sex partners?
The sugar daddy: Yes, that’s the fantasy it’s not real. It could never work in real life.
Me: Wait but what about that show, sister wives?
The sugar daddy: I don’t know how they do it. How can they not be jealous of each other. Also they went into that relationship under those terms, knowing what it was– whereas, we entered our marriage with just the two of us.
Me: Wait.. what if I said, honey go for it- take on another sex partner-I’m okay with it- oh and I’ll take on one too?
The sugar daddy: I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing it- because it would be something I was doing outside of our relationship that’s outside of the monogamy that I want to have. Oh and I DON’T want you having sex with anyone either!
Me: Ok- next up for you– What are your thoughts on the impending divorce of Seal and Heidi Klum- the married celebrity couple who always boasted of their robust sex life?
The Sugar Daddy: It seemed like they had such a rock solid relationship, they had four kids– I never thought they would break up?
Me: That scares me– if they can break up– what’s to keep our marriage together?
The Sugar Daddy: We’re committed to each other. Obviously there were problems in their marriage that no one knew about. Honey- we have mutual trust, commitment and respect-oh yeah and great sex- we’ll be fine!
So..what do you think- can an OPEN marriage be sustained long-term?