I always love listening to experts (especially if they’re male)tell women what it REALLY takes to SNAG THAT MAN.. because isn’t that all we women really want anyhow; to exude some sort of magic elixir which will draw men to us like a moth to a flame?! Well according to a certain expert I heard today pontificating about the mistakes us women make in our search for the one here are some of his non negotiable rules- that if you follow you can bet your bottom dollar you won’t appear, needy, self absorbed, stalkerish or just plain disrespectful to that potential guy you are trying to woo.
But before I tell you these secret tried and true ways to snag that man let me also tell you- that when I was dating- I followed NONE of these rules. NOT A ONE. And yes, it’s true I wasn’t very successful at keeping long-term relationships, aside from my current marriage which I’m proud to say has been going strong for 15 years– but I also don’t think presenting the shiniest version of yourself, and one that you can’t possibly sustain- will help you snag a man for the long run. Sure he might initially stick around because who doesn’t love a perfect Pollyanna who says all the right things and makes their date feel like the center of the universe- but honestly just how long can you keep up the perfect charade without either completely losing your shit and eventually decompensating right before his eyes?! My advice.. BE WHO YOU ARE- warts and all- a person who really likes you will like your flaws, your imperfections- will find them endearing, relatable and honest.
They will appreciate your sense of humor. Anyone who doesn’t, wants a Stepford wife/girlfriend.. and do you really think you could be content walking around with a vacant stare all day, outfitted in a tight flowery dress planting petunias and grocery shopping in stilettos all while smiling like a fembot?!
But in deference to this expert- and to those who think they need rules to snag the one– without further ado- here they are read more »